Posted by EllaCat:
I'm sorry you're feeling badly about how things played out. From what you've written, it sounds like both you and the student got your backs up, and things escalated from there. Without being present during the interaction, I don't think anyone could really tell you whether you pushed too hard or not, or what they might have done differently at the time. The only thing I can definitely say I would have done differently, is any time I have an "unpleasant" interaction with a student, I follow up with the parent the same day to ensure they have both sides of the story. If this keeps bothering you, maybe take it as an opportunity to think of different ways to handle similar situations in the future. Is there a different approach you could take that might lead to a different outcome? Could you anticipate this sort of issue ahead of time, and take steps to correct it before it turns into a big conflict? etc. It's always hard when things turn "ugly" with our students & their parents. We tend to make such personal connections that it really [i]feels[/i] personal when conflict occurs. Try not to dwell on it too much and I hope you're able to come to peace with what happened soon.
I'm sorry you're feeling badly about how things played out. From what you've written, it sounds like both you and the student got your backs up, and things escalated from there. Without being present during the interaction, I don't think anyone could really tell you whether you pushed too hard or not, or what they might have done differently at the time. The only thing I can definitely say I would have done differently, is any time I have an "unpleasant" interaction with a student, I follow up with the parent the same day to ensure they have both sides of the story. If this keeps bothering you, maybe take it as an opportunity to think of different ways to handle similar situations in the future. Is there a different approach you could take that might lead to a different outcome? Could you anticipate this sort of issue ahead of time, and take steps to correct it before it turns into a big conflict? etc. It's always hard when things turn "ugly" with our students & their parents. We tend to make such personal connections that it really [i]feels[/i] personal when conflict occurs. Try not to dwell on it too much and I hope you're able to come to peace with what happened soon.